Being a teenager

Riasat Raihan writes about the general circumstances of teenager’s life

Youth is the time of life when one is young but often means the time between childhood and adulthood. It is said, this is the time where life is found and it is enjoyed to the fullest. For some, it’s a very crucial time and for some it is time to live a life. As for me, youths lives are surrounded with so many things which are influencing them to stay connected with the world.
The first school in your life is family. Family is the most important thing in our lives. Teenagers need love and support from parents at a time when lots of others things in their lives are changing. Many people think that families become less important to children as they move into the teenage years. But it’s not. Families keep their relationship with their teenage children strong through ordinary, everyday activities. It’s true that family relationships change during adolescence. Most of the youths and their families have ups and down during the years, but things usually improved by late adolescence as children become more mature. And family relationships tend to stay strong right through. As for me, family is the most important thing to me. There is my own support system. Everybody thinks friends are more important but they are not. Friends are great, but they’ll come and go, but family is always here.
After family, friends are the second family in our lives. During teenage years, friendships are important for several reasons. Teenagers typically spend more time with their peers than they do with their family. Therefore, friends influence many aspects of a teenager’s life. Healthy friendships can help teenagers avoid delinquency, isolation and many of the negative characteristics that are associated with this period of life. Healthy friendship helps teenagers feel accepted and confident and can pave the way for the development of other positive social ties. Friends can be positive influences in the scholastic, social and personal aspects of a teenager’s life. Because friends often share common goals or interests, they can persuade a teen to make good choices. The teenage years are often stressful. Having trustworthy, loyal friends is important to help teenagers deal with the stress and uncertainty that is a normal part of development. Friends are also outlets for fun and excitement. Friendships or peer groups help teenagers find healthy ways to have fun outside of home, school, and work. Through companionship, recreation and common goals friendship promote fun and excitement in every youth’s life.
teenage-(1)On the other hand, love interests relationships is just another mentionable structure of every youth’s life. What does it mean when teenagers say ‘I love you’ to each other, or when they tell their friends that they are so in love with so and so? It’s not true, forever love, not yet, but teenage love does exist. What is it, exactly though? Teenage love is falling in love at a young age, possibly for the first time but not the last time and fantasising about what ‘should have been.’ It’s sometimes saying ‘I love you’ not because you mean it, but because you know it’s what you should say. The love feels like singing in rain. Youth love is like screaming, fighting, and crying and walking out the door, then calling each other a few minutes later and saying you’re sorry. Youths feel either being overjoyed and happy on Valentine’s Day or completely miserable when they are in love. Teenage love is to love someone and not being able to stop loving them, no matter how many times they hurt you. Love might be cruel sometimes to the teenagers as they know it won’t last forever. It can’t be still they want it to be true. Teenage love is being totally, completely, and magically in love with someone but not knowing what that means yet. It is not to be understood, is it?
Moving on, now-a-days, youths are 24/7 active in social networking sites. Facebook, whatsapp, snapchat, instagram etc are the social networking sites that are frequently used by the teenagers. Social interactions sites are like an extension of face to face interactions. So the biggest benefit from using social networking sites is a sense of connection and belonging to the family, friends and peers. Now everything is in your hands. Smart phones really have placed the majority portion in the field of social networking sites among the youths. These social media play a part in shaping teenage behaviour. Social media influences on teenagers can be deliberate. But being exposed to social media influence images and messages don’t automatically mean that one is at risk. Teenagers don’t just take on board everything the media or anybody else. But here’s the good news. The social media can be a positive influence for teenagers. For example, teenagers who are exposed to and take an interest in the news are more likely to be interested in major social and political issues. This can help educate them and encourage them to become more involved as citizen in their communities.
To sum up, every teenager is different from others. I have expressed the general idea about the things around youths and their life cycle. So PEACE!

Riasat Raihan, student of University of Liberal Arts Bangladesh.


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